Your ceremony officiant is the person who will legitimize your marriage and make it recognizable to both church and state. This is a very important piece of your wedding planning, and having the right person officiate will make your day that much more special. If you are not getting married in a church, consider a friend or family member that might be able to officiate. Wedding officiants must be notaries and can even become ordained online. A person who knows you and your fiance is going to word your wedding ceremony much more personally than one who has no knowledge of your relationship. For this reason, having multiple meetings and pre-wedding counseling with your officiant can make his/her task in writing the ceremony easier and more meaningful.
Questions for the officiant:
- How much will the ceremony outline be personalized to our relationship?
- What type of planning meetings or counseling is required before you will marry us?
- Do we have a choice in saying traditional vows or writing our own?
- How long do you anticipate the ceremony lasting? (Also consider added songs, readings, unity ceremonies, etc)
- When would you like for us to give you the marriage license?
- Will you be mailing in our completed marriage license or do we need to do that?
- (Destination weddings) Is your ordination valid in the place we are getting married?
- Do you plan to attend the rehearsal?